When the unremarkable conversations become crippling.

Tonight, after a few glasses of wine, a conversation began between two of the people I was with about sexual encounters during their childhood. This type of conversation, one that is quite unremarkable for them, is one that for me, will run around, playing games in my head for days, weeks, months. I won’t say…

Writing erotica

It’s not me, it’s them. I get my fair share of crude, not very well written messages. You just try and make sense of them, reply and move on. Some of these men though write like they are straight out of a course on erotic writing. I mean, they are amazing. My favourite time to…

Did it exist before the Internet?

I admit, my sexual experiences are pretty limited. I love sex, I love the sweat and the tastes and the sensations but I had no idea that people were into so many different things…. There are several terms that I have had to Google, just to find out what they were, but that’s OK because…

‘Does it turn you on?’

Well, no. You would have thought it might, after all when I watch a video on ‘Tasty’ I suddenly feel as if I haven’t eaten for months. This turns me on about as much as watching a documentary on serial killers makes me want to kill my own family. It’s never going to happen. I…

The other woman.

As I’ve said before, a reasonable amount of the men I write to are in relationships. It’s not my first visit into the world of being ‘the other woman’. I’ve done it before, in real life and to be honest it’s been on the whole pretty easy, noone found out and the only person who…

Who wants to marry a millionaire?

Today I spoke to a man who claims to have won the lottery….. He’s trying to use it to lure the ‘girl’ he’s talking to into meeting him except his story is probably as much of a figment of his imagination as the girl on the other side of the screen. The men who use…

Keeping an open mind.

Born to hippy parents and with friends and acquaintances of every persuasion, I thought I had a pretty open mind. Until the day a man wrote telling me he wanted to wipe my bum as part of his sexual gratification. Too shocked to reply to him and knowing that the person he was speaking to…

Infidelity.

At least 50% of the men I speak to are in a relationship. They’re cheaters. But what happens when you come across a man who has declared his love for you and then, a few messages down the line you find he’s cheating on you with well, you? This week I have sent messages from…

Falling in love through words

People have fallen in love through words for hundreds of years. From poetry used to attract a spouse in the 18th century, love letters sent back and forth between soldiers and their lovers during the world wars, to young people listening to the lyrics of songs enabling them to unravel the new emotions they feel…

A mother, a daughter, a friend, a sex worker.

It’s not something that I ever thought I’d do. Not properly. For three days many years ago I helped a friend out on a sex chat line, you know, those numbers that are advertised at the back of the Daily Sport? I had a cold and apparently my voice was something to be desired. It…